I've probably said this a million times, but natural hair is hard, man. There are so many obstacles that come with being natural. There's no one size fits all method. You have figure out what products and what techniques work for your hair, and that takes time and money. Being natural is expensive. Being natural is frustrating because your hair might not do what you want it to do. Your hair might not be what you thought it was.
For the longest time I thought I was a 4c girl, but with more research, I'm starting to think that I am not. I'm starting to think I fall somewhere in the 4a/4b category, but that isn't what this post is about. A lot of naturals want perfectly clumped girls.
My hair decided to go in a different direction.
My hair doesn't clump at all (except in the middle sections where they clump on their own in the most perfect way that it makes me want to cry.) My hair curls, but does not clump. With every single strand standing on its own, it gives off the illusion that my hair is frizzy instead of being curly. I also think this is the reason why most people would call girls with type 4 hair nappy, which is not true at all.
I've worn my hair in its unclumped state since I big chopped the first time and ever since I've been trying to find ways to get clumped curls that were defined with no success.
I'm at that point where I want to give up on ever having clumped defined curls and just rock my single strands even though I hate it. I'm at the point where I might have to force myself to love it because these curls aren't worth all the stress in my opinion.